Monthsary message for boyfriend: 75 messages you can copy and make your own

You remember the date. You have the photos. And then you open the chat box and stare at it, because nothing sounds quite right. A monthsary message is hard to write exactly because it is small: you want it to be sweet without sounding like a greeting card, and sincere without being too heavy for a Tuesday.

Here are 75 messages for your boyfriend, written to be copied and changed. Anything in [brackets] is the part to replace with your own detail. If you want even more lines, we also have a list of 50 monthsary messages for her or him, and these ones are all different.

How to write a monthsary message that sounds like you

1. Start with the month. “Happy 5th monthsary” tells him you counted.
2. Add one real moment. The night he waited with you for a ride, the time he laughed at the wrong part of the movie. A tiny detail beats a big word.
3. Say how it made you feel. “It made me feel safe” is more honest than “you're perfect”.
4. End by looking ahead. One line about next month, the next trip or just “same time next month?”

Sweet monthsary messages for your boyfriend

• “Happy monthsary, love. Another month with you and I still check my phone hoping it's you.”
• “[Three] months in, and you're the first person I want to tell everything to.”
• “Thank you for being the calm in my busy days. Happy monthsary.”
• “I didn't think I'd find someone who makes ordinary things feel like plans. Then I met you.”
• “Happy monthsary to the guy who [always walks on the outside of the sidewalk]. I noticed.”
• “This month I fell for you again when [you remembered my order without asking].”
• “You make me feel chosen. Thank you for choosing me again this month.”
• “Every month with you is my favorite month so far.”
• “I love how we can be quiet together and it still feels like a conversation.”
• “Happy monthsary, babe. I'm proud of you, and I'm proud to be yours.”
• “If I could pause time, I'd pause it on any night we spent talking until 2 a.m.”
• “You're my favorite person to share the last bite with.”
• “Thank you for loving me on my good days and my loud days.”
• “Another month of holding your hand. I'm not tired of it. I'm never going to be.”

Funny monthsary messages

These work best when you're comfortable enough to tease. Keep it affectionate: the joke should be about the two of you, not at his expense.

• “Happy monthsary! Congratulations on surviving another month of me. Your prize: more of me.”
• “[Four] months and you still haven't gotten tired of my playlist. Either that's love or you're very polite.”
• “Happy monthsary to my favorite person to argue with about where to eat. We always end up at Jollibee anyway.”
• “You stole my hoodie, my fries and my heart. Please return only the hoodie.”
• “Happy monthsary to the guy who texts ‘omw’ and arrives forty minutes later. I would wait forty more.”
• “Another month, another time you said ‘five minutes’ and meant twenty. Still yours.”
• “Happy monthsary! I'd share my last siomai with you. Think about how serious that is.”
• “This month I learned you snore a little. I learned I don't mind. That's how I know.”
• “Happy monthsary to the person who laughs at my jokes even when they are really, really bad.”
• “You're my favorite notification, and my least favorite one when you say ‘k’.”

For your 1st monthsary

The first one is gentle. You don't need to make big promises; just let him know the month mattered.

• “One month ago you said yes, and it's still the best thing that happened to me this year.”
• “Happy 1st monthsary. I'm so glad I took a chance on us.”
• “Thirty days of you. I'm excited for the next thirty, and the thirty after that.”
• “It's only been a month and you already feel like home.”
• “Thank you for making the first month so easy to love. Happy monthsary!”
• “Happy 1st monthsary, babe. I'd like to keep doing this with you.”

For your 2nd to 5th monthsary

By now you've seen each other tired, hungry and a little grumpy, and you're still here. Say that.

For your 6th monthsary: half a year

Six months is the big one for many Filipino couples, a half-year anniversary that deserves more than a quick text. This is a good month for a letter or a small gift.

• “Half a year of us. I'd choose you in all [182] days, and the ones that are coming.”
• “Happy 6th monthsary. Six months ago I was nervous. Now I can't imagine my weeks without you.”
• “We've done six months of laughing, arguing, making up and eating. I'd do all of it again.”
• “Happy half-year, love. You're the best decision I've made this year.”
• “Six months, and you're still the person I want to call first.”
• “I'm proud of what we've built in six months. Here's to the next six, and then some.”

For your 11th monthsary

• “Eleven months. One more and it's our first anniversary. I'm already counting.”
• “Happy 11th monthsary. Almost a year, and I'd still say yes without thinking.”
• “Eleven months of you. Next month I'll tell you what I'm planning.”
• “I love that after eleven months, I still get excited to see your name on my screen.”
• “Happy 11th, babe. We're so close to one year. Thank you for every day that got us here.”

Monthsary messages for a long-distance boyfriend

Whether he's in another city, studying abroad or working overseas, a long-distance monthsary is about showing up. Mention the screen, the time difference and the next time you'll meet. If you want something to give him that will last, a page with your photos, your songs and a countdown to the day you'll see each other works well for LDR.

• “Happy monthsary, love. The distance is real, but so is every day I wait for you.”
• “Another month closer to the day I get to hug you. Happy monthsary.”
• “Different time zones, same heart. Happy monthsary, babe.”
• “I may not be next to you, but I'm celebrating this monthsary with you in every thought.”
• “Thank you for staying up late and getting up early just to talk to me. That's love.”
• “Happy monthsary. Every video call with you is my favorite part of the week.”
• “It's hard to be apart, and I'd still choose you every time.”
• “Happy monthsary to my favorite person on the other side of the screen.”
• “[Twenty-three] days until I see you. I'm crossing off every one.”
• “Whatever distance is between us, I'm yours. Happy monthsary.”
• “If love had a speed, ours would beat any plane. Happy monthsary.”
• “Every month apart makes the first hug at the airport more worth it.”

Deeper monthsary messages

Some months are heavy. A message that admits it, and says thank you, can be the one he remembers.

• “This month wasn't easy, but you stayed. Thank you. That means everything.”
• “I love you most in the quiet moments, when nobody is watching and you are just you.”
• “You showed me what it feels like to be loved without having to earn it.”
• “Thank you for being patient while I figure myself out. I'm still learning, and I'm learning with you.”
• “There are many things I'm unsure about. You're not one of them.”
• “Happy monthsary. You've made me a softer, braver version of myself.”
• “After a month like this one, I want you to know you're my person.”
• “I'm grateful for every sorry and every thank you we've said to each other. That's how I know it's real.”

Short monthsary captions and messages for socials

Posting a monthsary photo on your story or feed? Keep it short, and add a photo that's you and not just a cute pose.

• “[Five] months. Still my favorite.”
• “Happy monthsary, love. 🤍”
• “Monthsary dump: my favorite person, my favorite place.”
• “One more month with you, please.”
• “Me and my person. Happy [3rd], babe.”
• “Home is wherever you are. Happy monthsary.”
• “Another month, another reason I'm grateful for you.”
• “Forever is a long time. Let's start with next month.”

Make the message last longer than a chat

A text is lovely, but it gets buried under group chats and delivery updates. If you'd like him to be able to reopen your message months later, put it somewhere that stays. Some couples write a letter and add the QR code to a card, some keep a note on their phone, and some make a page of their own: the message, a photo for each monthsary, your songs and a counter of your days together. You can add to it every month, so by your 11th monthsary he has a record of the whole year.

A few things to avoid

• Copying a message word for word without changing anything. He'll likely know it came from the internet. Change one detail.
• Comparing him to exes or other couples. Keep it about the two of you.
• Making a promise you're not sure about. “I'll always…” is bigger than “I'm looking forward to…”.
• Using the message to bring up an unresolved fight. Save that for another day.

And remember: nobody expects a poem. If you can say, in your own words, that the month mattered and that he mattered in it, you've written a good monthsary message. For gift ideas to go with it, see our monthsary ideas and gifts guide.