110 Questions to Ask Your Girlfriend (Deep, Fun, Cute and Flirty)

The questions you ask say a lot about how much you care. These 110 questions to ask your girlfriend are sorted by mood, so you can pick the right one for a first month together, a long drive, a quiet night in or a text in the middle of her busy day.

A few rules that make any question better

• Put the phone down when she answers. Attention is the whole point.
• Ask about feelings, not only facts: “How did that feel?” goes further than “When was that?”.
• Remember what she says and bring it up later. That is what makes her feel heard.
• Do not fix, just listen. If she wants advice, she will ask.
• Share your own answers. Openness is contagious.

Questions to get to know her better (14)

1. What is your earliest happy memory?
2. What were you like at twelve?
3. Which book or movie changed the way you see things?
4. What is a compliment you still remember?
5. Who in your family are you most like?
6. What is your comfort meal after a long day?
7. Which place in the world feels like home to you?
8. What is your morning routine on a perfect day?
9. What is something you are really good at that people do not know about?
10. Which friend would you call at 3am?
11. What was your favorite subject at school, and why?
12. What is a hobby you would pick up if you had more time?
13. What is the best gift you have ever received?
14. Which season are you, and why?

Deep questions to ask your girlfriend (14)

1. What makes you feel safe?
2. What is the bravest thing you have ever done?
3. What do you need more of in your life right now?
4. What is something you have never told anyone about yourself?
5. Which moment of your life would you like to understand better?
6. What does success mean to you, honestly?
7. What is a belief you grew up with that you let go of?
8. When was the last time you cried, and why?
9. What would you do if you were not afraid of failing?
10. What is the best advice you ever ignored?
11. Who has hurt you the most, and how did you heal?
12. What do you love most about the woman you are becoming?
13. What makes a friendship last, in your experience?
14. How do you want to be remembered?

Fun questions to ask your girlfriend (14)

1. What is your guilty-pleasure TV show?
2. If your life were a movie, who would play you?
3. What is the strangest dream you remember?
4. What would your superhero name and power be?
5. Which emoji do you use way too much?
6. What is the worst haircut you have ever had?
7. Cats, dogs or something more unusual?
8. What would you name a boat if you had one?
9. What is your go-to karaoke song?
10. Which decade would you live in if you could?
11. What is your most irrational fear?
12. What is the funniest thing that happened to you at school?
13. If you opened a café, what would be on the menu?
14. What is the best joke you know?

Cute and flirty questions (14)

1. What was your first impression of me, honestly?
2. When did you first think I might be the one?
3. Who do you think made the first move?
4. What is your favorite thing I say to you?
5. Which of my outfits do you like best?
6. What was the moment you knew you wanted a second date?
7. What is your favorite way to be kissed hello?
8. What little thing do I do that you find adorable?
9. What would our perfect date look like, from start to finish?
10. Which song would you dedicate to me?
11. What did you tell your friends about me after we met?
12. What is your favorite memory of the two of us laughing?
13. Do you have a favorite photo of me?
14. What should I surprise you with next?

Questions about your relationship (14)

1. How do you most like to receive love: words, time, gifts, touch or help?
2. What is something I did that made you feel really special?
3. What do you need from me when you are upset?
4. Is there something you would like us to talk about more?
5. What is one thing you would change about how we spend weekends?
6. When do you feel most appreciated by me?
7. What is a small habit of mine you would miss if it disappeared?
8. How should we handle it when we disagree?
9. What part of our story do you love telling people?
10. Which of our traditions is your favorite?
11. What do you think makes us a good team?
12. How can I make your busy weeks easier?
13. What is something you have always wanted to do with a partner?
14. Do you feel like I listen to you? When do I not?

Questions about the future (13)

1. What does your dream life look like ten years from now?
2. Is there a country you would love to live in?
3. What kind of wedding, if any, do you imagine?
4. How do you feel about having kids one day?
5. What is a goal you are working toward this year?
6. Which trip is at the very top of your list?
7. What would you study if you went back to school?
8. City, countryside or somewhere by the sea?
9. What does a perfect home smell like to you?
10. How would you like to spend your fiftieth birthday?
11. What is something you want us to build together?
12. Which family tradition do you want to keep?
13. What would you do if you had one year off work?

Would you rather questions for your girlfriend (13)

1. Would you rather have a surprise trip or a surprise party?
2. Would you rather live in a tiny house in Paris or a big house in the countryside?
3. Would you rather receive a handwritten letter or a song I wrote for you?
4. Would you rather have unlimited flowers or unlimited chocolate?
5. Would you rather spend a rainy day in bed with movies or out in a museum?
6. Would you rather be famous or quietly rich?
7. Would you rather go stargazing or watch the sunrise with me?
8. Would you rather redo your wardrobe or redo your bedroom?
9. Would you rather always know the truth or always be happy?
10. Would you rather have a dance lesson or a cooking class together?
11. Would you rather read minds or be invisible for a day?
12. Would you rather spend Christmas in the snow or on a beach?
13. Would you rather plan every detail of a trip or wing it?

Questions for long distance or by text (14)

1. What is the first place you want to take me when I visit?
2. What made you smile today?
3. What are you wearing to bed tonight: the hoodie or the pajamas?
4. Which of our photos is your lock screen right now?
5. What is one thing you wish I could see with you today?
6. What should we cook together over video this week?
7. If you could send me one thing through the screen, what would it be?
8. What do you do when you miss me?
9. Which day are we counting down to?
10. What is a song that feels like us?
11. What would you want in a care package from me?
12. What is the best part of your week so far?
13. Tell me one thing you have never texted me before.
14. What should our next video date be?

What to do with the answers

Write down the answers that touched you. They are perfect for a couple quiz, for a love letter on your anniversary or for love paragraphs for her that sound like you. And if you want to go really deep, try the famous 36 questions to fall in love together.